I write.

For myself and others. I write to build up myself and others. We are children of a greater God, and there is a lot to say and to do, for ourselves and others.

This piece is a bit haphazard. But please allow the thoughts as they come.

My one friend says that we exist in our physical bodies, for love and for Community in this one earth, while we live and while we are alive. To be of service to others, and thats our lives purpose.

And I realise, from what Zat Rana writes, that there is universal truth to this thing. We are alive, to be with others, yet we also have to be ourselves and by our selves. To dream, and achieve things, and to aspire and be better, than other people? Or is that with other people? Should we be selfish in what we want for ourselves?

“Life is ultimately a single-player game, but the only thing that truly makes it worth living has something to do with our relationships to other people, and this paradox sits at the core of what it means to be a human being.” — Zat Rana

When I read that, I had to ask myself that my aspiration for accomplishment and achievement, as I approach the big 40 in a couple of days time, to achieve more and tick a lot of boxes and complete my bucketlist, if that is selfish? Am I sacrificing other people’s aspirations in the process of becoming who I want to become? Should I care?

These thoughts bother me. Do you owe your life and happiness to someone? If you become betrothed and you hold a matrimonial relationship, do you stop yourself from dreaming for yourself?

Does personal aspiration become taboo, when you are in a long term relationship? Do you have to hold yourself back and aspire in unison? Even when your perspective is different? The way you see things?

How do you achieve that plural view when you exist in the singular? I know you are not single when you are married, but you still have your thoughts when you are having convos with yourself.

So that plurality has to be your truth? And how do you get to that plural view? How do you get to consensus, and how do you avoid conflict? Do you get a relationship coach? A financial/economic coach or do you rely on talk radio or your Twitter feed?

Do you have meetings in your marriage? Where you have a set agenda and you discuss plans and agree on strategy and the epic projects to define your joint lives and for your offspring? Do you have strategy offsites? Or State of the Union/Nation reviews?

I think those things, as they happen in our professional/corporate lives, and in our country’s politics of government should apply. An annual budget day?

You should perhaps establish an economic policy unit in your matrimonial relationship. What do you think? A planning office? A budgeting office? A public works department for the fixing of your residence and its infrastructure? A Treasury function? Or do you trust your spouse to know whats good for all of you?

What works?