A woman is God’s love, but what is love?

For the most part, love is about the woman, who is virtuous, is given beauty and gives beauty to the world. She loves God, is fiery and fierce, and is loved by God. And is just like God. And jealous.

A Pew Research Centre study conducted in 2018 revealed that women in the US are more religious than men. From casual observation, if you look around you, you may come to the same conclusion. I realised this when I looked at church attendance on any ordinary Sunday. Its mostly women that make the effort for church. I wondered why. So I kept on reading:

But a man is invited to love a woman. And compatibility, is a man who accepts the invitation, and he presents himself to her intimacy. But what kind of man, would be presentable to such a woman, in whose body God dwells? A kind man? A strong man? A gentle man?

I was wondering if this is a universal definition. Or an assumption that is religiously academic, but devoid of truth. So I asked a woman of deep thought, who is also an academic and practises an oriental religion. And she gave these descriptions;

Kind, soft, concerned, attentive, passive but not lazy.

Not a pushover, but peaceful.

Graceful, with a soothing energy.

Not volatile, distracting, or irritating.

I also love leadership in a man.

Confidence is good but not arrogant or over-confident.

A go-getter. Ambitious, determined, hardworking.

A man of his word.

Further to this, and beyond the superficial, the advice is that listening is important. But why do women want to be listened to, when men dont care so much? And we are told that women have a natural affinity for relationship. Is there a relationship?

My experience is that there has to be conversation, and that keeps up the relationship. You must have stuff to talk about. And you both have to be in the conversation, while you are in conversation. But this is more important to her:

You may have heard or felt this before, if you have been in a long term relationship. And if you still want to be in that relationship you have to listen and hear her. And make every effort, to make yourselves equal participants in a conversation. Such is needed for a virtuous woman.

She is not there to validate you, or your manhood. She is also trying to get answers for her own questions, and to heal her own wounds, just like you.

But when she is vulnerable, and open, and she yields to love, to your love, and to your acceptance of her invitation, you are welcomed, to know the goodness and mercy of God. And you both gain access to enlightenment, for as long as you accept the opportunity to hear her, so you can understand her, more.

Isnt this a revelation? This vulnerability that opens up relationship goes both ways. You are vulnerable to each other, to create a safe space, and room for deeper knowing, of God. And the knowing of each other. Thats love. God is love.

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Excerpts are from Captivating, a book by John and Stasi Eldredge.

Descriptions from deep thought, of a man are by Dr Variza Roopa.