A farmer’s marriage.

I have become a bit of a farmer in my older age. And I believe in constant and incessant cultivation, of love, you see.

The plants only grow when you feed and water them. And you take away the weeds regularly and you cultivate and sometimes propagate the good seedlings and hope the bees come around for pollination.

You get from the earth as much as you put in. And you pray for good weather, rains and sunshine. A farmer has to be the hardest praying person on earth. They pray profusely bro.

Water, cultivation, and a lot of other activities of care keep the plants healthy. But you have to sow the good seeds. And you have to give them plants some space, to breathe and make sure that their rows are straight for them to grow without disturbance from and to each other.

And thats about as good a simile as it gets for matrimony I think. Lets be farmers. Farmers of love.

When the plants are growing, they have to root. Into the ground. So if you dont plant the good seeds, and you dont care how they grow, when they grow, they will grow into each other’s space and harm the other. So each of the seeds need their space to root and catch the sun.

When you expand this to a field. Each of the plants are identifiable as being part of the whole, a plantation that fulfils the demands of the ecosystem. They are in unison for a purpose. The farmer creates that purpose.

And the purpose of matrimony is to house a Covenant between a man and a woman, and their promise to God that they will be together, to celebrate each other, to support each other and to help the other to serve and obey God, and to worship Him, and to get into His spirit, together.

Each being free and comfortable in their own space, but supporting each other, knowing that there is a bond of truth and love that binds and unites them and keeps them excited in being with each other for a lot longer time, you see.

Matrimony comes with that freedom, if seeded correctly and righteously, and with Spiritual agreement.

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I prefer equal and consultative relationships. A partnership above all else.

I have admiration for couples that have balance in their support of each other. However much the other party earns or brings home. Decisions are taken jointly for the family’s communal good. And I believe that, that kind of sustenance makes the matrimony more of a forever thing, than a seasonal thing.

And I believe, now, that prayer feeds that. And feeds each of the other’s souls. That can be the only way that that kind of alignment holds for a long time into the future.

Lets farm, lets farm together fam. Lets get this water for the seeds.